The very first UK podcast for stepmums is finally here!

In each episode,  I’ll share with you great tips and tools on how to deal with anything that life throws at you. I’m someone who made tons of mistakes but always managed to get up and learn something from it.  However this is more than a podcast for stepmums, it was created for help and support single and co-parents too. 

My name is Veronika Durham, I’m stepfamily coach, second wife and stepmum. In December 2019 I launched the very first UK podcast for stepmum. You can find out more about me HERE

Who are my guests? 

Real people sharing their stories, struggles and victories. Most importantly they are step, single, and co-parenting even stepchildren.  You can expect specialists from different fields such as sex education, law, social and health care and many more. 

Are you ready for honest and raw conversations? Let’s cut the crap and get into action!

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When your kid says ‘I HATE YOU!!’

We say hate a lot – I hate this weather, spiders, and this and that. YET, we don’t like when kids say 'HATE' when they are disappointed, angry, raging or worried. If someone tells you I hate you, you either know very well what you have done to deserve this or you go,...

This wasn’t easy to share – reflecting on 2023

Making this video podcast live makes my stomach turn around. I was feeling down after having a very good day, I didn't want to do any recording but here I am. My husband pushed me to film a video, and he said to me: say some inspiring s*it. He gave me two minutes to...

Feng Shui for Beginners with Patricia Lohan

I thought I knew something about Feng Shui, but I was wrong. I'm so glad that Patricia came to the podcast and explained the basics of Feng Shui and how to start with it. Since our chat, I cleared up the attic, donated a lot of stuff, and had a pile of toys to sell....

I Was Hiding For Too Long and Here Is Why

I've been in and out here, on social media and in my life. I just wanted to get a few things out of my chest before being here again. Thank you for your support! Love, Veronika x IG https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ FB https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum/...

How To Start a Difficult Conversation

It took me days, weeks or months to have a difficult conversation. It was ridiculous! Here is one of my favourite tools on how to start talking. Follow me on IG https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ FB https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum/ Youtube:...

Boundaries and Grandparents

I'm visiting my parents with my little one for two weeks. A bit much? Yes and No! I've done a whole month before. Anyway, here are my five tips on how to have your boundaries in place with the grandparents. email me: hello@veronikadurham.com IG...

Go to Bed Angry – Argue Better ep 1

Argue and communicate better series is here! in each episode of this series, I'll talk about relationship advice we get and hear, why they don't work, and what communication tool I would use. Never going to bed angry is BS! Listen to why I think that and what tool I...

Blended Family and Finances

Being a stepparent shouldn't cost you your life savings! We give so much power and meanings to money but we also have the right to change our money game. email me: hello@veronikadurham.com IG https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ FB...

Stop looking for closure

We don't need a closure from someone else, we need to get the closure within ourselves! In the past I believed I have to get one in order to move on, to forget and forgive. In this episode I share why I think the need for closure could be very hurtful and most of the...

Envy, Guilt, and Judgement 

Each of these deserves its own episode but in this one, I'm explaining how these are linked and work together. I'm using examples from my motherhood, step mum jorney, doing TikTok videos, and recording my podcast/youtube. IG https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ FB...

Breaking up with a friend

it can be more difficult than breaking up with a partner, not many people talk about breaking up with their friends. I've been on both sides and none of them are easy. In this episode, I share more about breaking up with a friend, trying to get closer, and much more....

Resentment in a happy marriage

You don't need a life-changing problem to feel resentful. In this episode, I'm sharing how I process resentment and use a recent 'incident' to explain it. I hope you like giraffes 🙂 IG https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ FB https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum/...

Sober Motherhood

I'm sober for two years and eight months and saved over £4000! Being sober was the only option for me. I don't label myself as an alcoholic but here is why I'm sober, my triggers, struggles, and pros of sobriety. I'm sober app: https://iamsober.com/ Follow me on IG...

Blended Family & Holidays

Maybe the summer holidays are the hardest school holidays to manage, organise, survive and enjoy. Maybe it is not that bad, but I sometimes struggle when it comes to having my stepdaughter for more than just a weekend. Don’t take me wrong she is a brilliant kid, it’s...

Mum Rage

Mum rage is common but not normal! Here I'm sharing what I have learned about mum rage so far, how do I deal with it and how do I try to prevent it or at least manage it. I hope this episode will helps someone. Follow me https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/...

We Deserve to Thrive – Joanne, Starra Education

Listen to Joanne and me talking about how being mums changed our mindsets and business. We shared how hard is to experience mum rage, trying to chase ‘back to normal and much more. We talked about Joanne’s complicated childhood, her relationship with her mum and her...

Infertility & Being a Stepmum With Sarah @ukstepmum

Sarah teamed up with The Stepmum collective and launched the petition - Stop denying women fertility treatment because their partner already has a child from a previous relationship! #MyFertilityMatters They would greatly appreciate it if you could please sign this...

Stepmum what are you scared of?

I asked you on IG what are you scared of when it comes to your blended family and got some interesting answers I'm addressing in this week episode.   Also, I talk about three main things we are scared of as stepmums  - Making mistakes  - Upsetting...

Stepmum & Pregnancy

With no so long before the baby boy hopefully safely arrives I would like to share with you my pregnancy journey as a stepmum.   I'm talking about my triggers, why I hate the bio mum label, how my stepdaughter reacted to the news and what how we deal with...

TOP 5 MISTAKES – STEPMUM & THE EX RELATIONSHIP

I've made so many mistakes as a new stepmum and I see other stepmums still making these mistakes and it's absolutely normal as being a stepmum is a learning roller coaster. But we need to learn from our mistakes and even better learn from the mistakes others did so we...

Resentment – 5 Steps to let it go!

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die! This may sound like a total cliché but that is exactly what resentment is! You are effectively giving control of your feelings to others. Plus, they don’t even know about it! Isn’t this the...

How To Get The Ex Out Of Your Head

Every single stepmum struggle with this! I've never heard a stepmum to say ‘I don’t think of his ex at all’. We let the ex to take a big part of our minds and here are my tips on how I went from having her in my head 24/7 (plus in very toxic way) to occasionally...

Build and Preserve Healthy Boundaries For Yourself

In this week episode I'm talking about how and why I created healthy boundaries for myself. I explain what boundaries are, how we create them, what basic type of boundaries we have and how they impact us and our relationships. I share with you how you can restore...

My 5 Favourite Communication Tips & Tools

During the lockdown, you might spend more time with your partner than usually and it may be challenging. I often hear stepmums and my clients saying 'Every time we get into an argument he tells me - You don't love my children!' It's like a slap in the face,...

Being a Stepmum With Jane

In this week episode, I talk to Jane, founder of Support Our Stepmums. SOS is a private IG account that supports and celebrate our Stepmum. We chat about our experiences, stepmum meltdowns and what was the reason behind creating Support Our Stepmums.  I...

Real Stuff & People with Megan

In this week episode, I did my very first interview with a single mum! I met Megan on her Instagram Sober Story after I decided to go sober in December 2019.  Megan is a great guest to have and talk to! She is honest, doesn't hold back and is happy to share her...

Boundaries, tantrums, rules, respect and lying

I might need to do a few follow up episodes on this one as it’s such a big topic. I’m sharing my story, experiences and tools on how to deal with all of these.   I’ll definitely do an episode on boundaries in relationships with adults soon as you've been...

Real Stuff & People with Gavin

I couldn’t ask for a better first guest on my podcast! Gavin is a dad and stepdad living here in the UK. We could talk for hours, well we kind of did, about getting a divorce, starting over as a single dad and blending two families with his girlfriend Amy. They are a...

Stepmum burnout and guilt

Ok, this is a long one, but I could talk about stepmum burnout and guilt for hours. People say  ‘Just step back’ but this is easier said than done. I share my story, tips, tools, personal and professional experience on how to limit stepmum burnouts and get rid of...

Being the second wife

When things got serious with Mr K he was still in the process of divorcing his ex-wife so the second wife stigma began hitting me hard and lasted for some time. I never thought I’d marry a guy who was married before and who had a child.  I couldn’t stop thinking...

Bad Habits part one

The first episode of 2020 and I'm not holding back! Are you ready for an honest and raw conversation about our bad habits? BTW this episode is for everyone not only for stepmums. The bad habits that made part one are:  - labelling/diagnosing/calling people xyz -...

Purpose, Vision, Goals & Actions

This week I share tips, tools, when I went wrong when it comes to motivation and setting my goals and what works for me. learn about:  - effectively reflect on the current year - how to plan the next year and many more - motivation, vision boards or to-do lists...

Christmas vs Stepmum

Welcome to the first episode where I share a few stories, tips and tools from her eBook 'How to not to survive Christmas' IG @step.in.mum Book a complimentary session HERE

Why me?

My coaching is a mix of personal experience, training and research. I’m honest compassionate and friendly. I’ll bring lightness and a bit of humour to our sessions so don’t expect stuffy and boring sessions. 

I believe in many cases it doesn’t take much or a long time to change your life. Breakthroughs and mindset shifts happen all the time, you just need the right support, tools and being asked the right questions.

I’m a highly empathetic person and help you to see your blind spots (things you don’t see or don’t want to see). I’ve been there! I have lived and breathed the ups and downs of relationships, being a second wife and stepmum. And from 2020 the ups and downs of motherhood.

And of course, my coaching is tailored to your specific needs and challenges.

 How does it work?  

Book a 60-minute Complimentary Session: We’ll explore the issues you would like to deal with or where do you need support. My promise to you it’s that you’ll walk away with a breakthrough from this session. Book HERE.

I work with most of my clients over the phone and video calls. You can have your session in pyjamas, during your lunch break or even in a quiet coffee shop if you need to hide from your partner or family (yes, I had many session with my clients being in a coffee shop). 

Packages & Prices: You can choose from a range of packages ranging from 1-3 hours to packages that offer continual support for 3 to 12 months.  Prices start from £50. 

Invite Your Partner: you can invite our partner for one session for no extra charge otherwise or you can simply upgrade yours. 

Support In Between: you’re welcome to call or email me in between sessions if you’re dealing with something urgent, which can’t wait until the next session. One quick conversation can help you to be powerful and get ‘unstuck’.