French children don’t throw food & French parents don’t give in
By Pamela Druckerman
These books were originally recommended by someone else to my husband three years ago (he hasn’t read it yet). I thought the book will be mix of food education, table manners and children behavior. But this book is not just kid’s vs food!
Here are five reasons why I love this book (apart of the food part)
From love story to raising three children and marriage
This book is a guide to pregnancy, birth, raising child, sleeping routine, marriage, ‘perfect mother syndrome’, education, lifestyle, food, self-love and confidence and much more! It’s an all in one book.
It’s amazing how the author managed to squeeze years of experience into 300 pages. It blows my mind what an impact this book can have.
Grandmother tips, common sense and science
The author, Pamela Druckerman, has degrees in philosophy and international affairs. She is fascinated to see what French parents, doctors and teachers do and don’t do. She puts most of the tips and tricks into place with her children and relationship with her husband. She explains how certain methods work and why are important by consulting them with experts.
It’s very easy to read, nothing complicated, it just makes sense. Genuinely simple!
Three nations, three mentalises and one family in Paris
She is an American, her husband is English, living and raising their bilingual children in Paris, sounds complicated, but she managed to mix it all, and it works.
I’m from the Czech Republic and my husband is English, and we can see how different we’re when it comes to parenting. We don’t have children yet, but he has a daughter from his first marriage. I’m the strict one, he’s is amazing father and he’s keen to learn how to be stricter and a more confident father.
Reading this book helped me to explain him my step-parenting style even better as French parenting is very similar to Czech parenting. I’m sure this book will come very handy once we start our family.
It’s eye opening and honest
After publishing this book, the author had to face lots of angry articles and criticism and I’m not surprised. She is not making anyone wrong for how they’re raising their children, but she talks about helicopter parenting, eating for two during pregnancy, that kids are not the centre of universe and much more. I love how open and honest she is. She admits her mistakes, struggles and talks about what she learnt.
I wish my man would read this book when he got it! It wasn’t easy for him to find his own voice as a single dad (is he still a single dad after getting married again?). He asked me so many times how I always know what to do with his daughter. Firstly, I don’t, but even before reading this book I told him that he needs to trust himself and make sure that he is the one who is in charge, not his daughter. I knew these two rules create a solid foundation, and you can read more about it in this book.
It reminds me of my mum so much
My mum had my brother and me in her early 20s, with grandmothers being hundreds of miles away, without internet, or a cell phone. My dad was in army until I was five, so he wasn’t around much.
My mum had ONE book about pregnancy and baby and she managed to do it herself with some help of her new friends and colleagues.
When I ask her how she did it she said: use common sense, don’t forgot who you are and that you have a husband, trust yourself and observe your step child.
‘French parents don’t give in’ is a short summary of the first book with 100 tips, so you don’t need to read the first book all over again if you want to refresh your memory or want your man to read it.
I would highly recommend this book to all future parents, step-parents and parents. Is it a must!